As crazy as this title might sound, it is true. And I have experienced it first hand.
I was never the person to hate someone else's happiness. I was actually the one who applauded them, and looked at people who were happy and in love, with admiration, and wanting the same for myself. That was, of course, until I understood that appearances can be deceiving and some people might look happy and in love while they are in public, but feel and act totally different when they are in the privacy of their own home. So, I have learned to appreciate the happiness and love they are displaying, but to wish for the happiness and love that is suited to my wants and needs.
As you all know, I am going through a separation from my husband. And that messed with my head, heart and emotions big time. You don't usually pay attention to the couples around you, when you are in a relationship, but when yours ends, it's like all you can see around you are happy, in love people. And it's impossible to don't get on your nerves. And yes, I do know what I am saying, and it is normal.
They even seem to you more happier than they truly are. They seem to kiss with passion, hold hands tighter, laugh louder, they seem to be looking with more love at one another. And all you want to do is scream "it's not real ... you're happiness is making me angry, because it reminds me of everything I don't have anymore, and all the things that I miss".
But then I stop in my head, and I realize that they're not at fault that my marriage didn't work. It's not their fault that I am unhappy now, crying for all the things that I've lost and miss. They might have their own problems, and for a moment, this moment that I am witnessing, they are happy. And they deserve to be happy. So I look at them, and I say in my mind "I am happy for you. I wish you two are very happy together, and I wish some day I will find the person who will bring sparks in my eyes, and love in my heart, and we love each other enough to not hold ourselves from kissing and hugging in public".
When I do this, I understand that their happiness isn't taking away mine. It could never do that. So, I truly wish them all the well and as much happiness as possible. And you know what? My heart doesn't feel that heavy anymore. And I don't feel that bad anymore. That changes me a little, and it pushes away the pain I feel in my heart. And, sometimes, I even start smiling after, and I feel like I am able to talk to people without crumbling down.
So, be good to others when they expose their happiness and love, while you are probably going through hell and back. It is not their fault. And they have the right to be happy, and to show it. Others might have passed by you when you were happy and in love, and showing it. Be nice with their happiness and love. It will do you good. It really will.
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