Sometimes "TOO MUCH GOOD" Can be Scary

 

 As crazy as it might sound, when you have an amazing opportunity to do something great, something beautiful, something that will change your life completely, it will transform it and probably make it 1 000 times better, you freeze. You get scared. 

I know some of you would say "no way", that you would love to have that great, amazing opportunity that I am talking about, and that you would not only gladly take it, but you would grab on to it and do everything you can to not let it slip. 

But, you do. Sometimes you let it go just because it is so new, and it gives you the perspective of something so great that it scares you. It freezes you. 

Taking something so big, that would bring you such an amazing transformation means to let go of what you have now and grab onto that. 

Picture this: if you have a rough rope in your hands, and you're holding onto it with both hands, and someone is giving you a smooth rope, one who might even come with a chair to rest from time to time, for you to grab that smooth, wonderful rope, means that you have to let go of the rough rope you already have in your hands. You have to trust to let that go, to be able to put your hand on the other rope. When your hands are filled with something, you can't put something else on top, because that extra thing will fall, cause you can't hold it since your hands are already filled with something else.

And that moment is what I am talking about. That moment when you have to let go of what you've known for so long so you can grab onto something new, that is promising to be so much more amazing. And that my friends, is scary. 

Why? Because no matter how unsatisfied you are with where you're at, and no matter how well you know deep inside that you are amazing, and you can do amazing things, and your purpose here is far greater than what you're doing now, the place you are in is knows, and it is comfortable, and it brings you as much peace because you know it, as it makes you unsettled because you can do much more. 

So, this is why Too Much Good can scare you. Because what you have know is familiar, and you know you're fine. But grabbing onto this new thing means letting go of this familiar state and trusting that it will eventually the new thing will prove to be way better. And you freeze. 

You fight for the new thing, and fight, and fight, and somewhere along the way you start having all kind of thought, and overthink everything. You start thinking what if you let go of this and the new thing will be worst? What if it won't work? You will lose what you have now, and where will you be?

Your brain is designed to keep you away from danger. And the unknown is danger. Because you don't know what lies there. 

But what if it's wonderful? What if that step was all you had to do to make it even greater? What if this will change your life for the better to such degree that your heart will cry of happiness? What if everything will work out so miraculously that it will leave you without words? What if it will be magical? What if it will be everything you dreamt of, or more? 

What if? .... Wouldn't that be amazing? 

You are scared, and that is so normal. So normal. No matter what others might tell you, it is normal to be scared. But decide to do it anyway. Do it scared, do it shaking, but do it anyway ❤️

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How To Get Work Done

 

Whatever it is that you want to do, whatever it is that you are putting off, just start.  

Work isn't always easy. Even the job that you are born to do, and you love it with all your heart, and you wouldn't see yourself doing anything else but that for the rest of your life, even with that you have moments when it is not easy to do. When you just want to lay around a bit longer, when you would like to procrastinate the moment you begin. And THAT IS NORMAL!!

Did you hear that? THAT IS NORMAL! You are normal. It's not that you're lazy, it's not that you don't want to do it, that you are not grateful, or that you don't appreciate what you have, but sometimes you just need that push to do it. No matter how much you love what you are doing. Sometimes, you just need that little push. 

Have you heard about the saying that when you have something you need to do, but don't feel like doing it, and you practically just go around your tail for hours before you start, that the solution is to just start? That's so unbelievably true. 

Don't think about the outcome, about where you have to get, about the destination. Don't even think about the journey, because if it is a project that you know it might take you a few hours, you're mind will be reluctant to start, because she estimates the time and effort based on past experience, so it will do everything she can to stop you from putting you at work. 

But when you're in the midst of it, what your mind forgets, it's the sweet happiness that you feel so fully in your heart when the work is done, and you have the end result. That moment of pure joy, and happiness that goes through your body is priceless. 

How do you do it? Just start. That is all. Say that you will do this for five minutes. Look at the clock, see what time it is, and say to yourself: "I'll give myself 5 minutes at this". What you will notice after those five minutes is that probably an hour or more has passed by and you didn't stop. You're still there, still doing it, and now you're so committed, and so engaged that you absolutely love it and you don't feel the times passing anymore. Because all you needed was that little push that got you to begin. 

 You knew it wasn't as bad as your mind was making you think it was. You just forgot. And the fear you feel before starting, that's not real. That's all in your head. How I know this? Because as soon as you start and get pass those first few minutes, your body relaxes, your mind rests, you start concentrating on the task and you don't feel the fear anymore. So, if you were really in danger, and there was really something to be afraid of, all that wouldn't happen. Your mind would stay in that state of fear. But it doesn't.

So, all you have to do, is push yourself to start those 5 minutes. That's all. Don't think about how much you have to do, how long it will take, where you have to get, or any of those things. Just start. Just start those 5 minutes. That's it. 5 minutes.

Have a great holiday everyone. You are all important. You are all loved, sometimes you don't even know who loves you. And you are all here for a reason. Even if it is just so that someone could love you, or to bring a smile on someone's face. You are here for a reason, and you are always wanted and appreciated. Stay safe, and have a wonderful celebration.

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Everyone Is Crying For Something

For a long time I believed that I am the only one who feels the way I did. The only one suffering, or not understanding life, or not knowing how to do it. I thought that other people have it all figured it out, or at least a big part of it, and they are all just enjoying the ride while I didn't know where to start or how to approach it.

 Only in time I understood that I am not the only one. No body has it figured it out. They are all struggling in a way or the other to find a way and to just live. It doesn't matter how old you are, how rich you are, how much someone's life could seem so amazing and glamorous on the outside, people are always suffering about something. 

Nobody's life is just perfect and that's that. Every person on this Earth struggle about something they may or may not speak about it. And most of the times, because nobody is saying anything, you just watch them and think how perfect everything is for them, and how easy breezy everything seem. But it really isn't like that. They're just not talking about their struggles. 

There are so many people battling depression in silence, being in an unhappy or unhealthy environment at home, at school, at work, among the friends they have, who have their own problems and they show their insecurities by picking on the things they know affects you, or they are jealous on the things you might do, succeed, or have the courage to try to do. 

And I also understand their point in a way, and please bear with me for a second, cause I know the first instinct is to say "WHAT???" But think about it for a bit. Where you never insecure about something, or frightened, and your first reaction was to joke a bit mean on someone else's expense? Or you heard of a friend's success and you were happy for them, but you also got jealous thinking you deserve that as well? Cause maybe you worked hard and all. 

So, now you see my point that we all have these moments where things happen? Where even if for a moment (which we all know that sometimes it lasts more than a moment), you behaved exactly like the ones you blame of being bad, mean, jealous, and so on? And that is because everybody is going through something, and there are moments when you can't fake it anymore, or you don't know how to react, or you just had enough, and you burst out, and you react in a way that maybe it's not you, but you do it. 

And, we do have to agree that there are people who are mean for a living, so to say. They are always making fun of everyone, giving snappy answers. But those people have their own problems as well, and this is why they are like this. I'm not defending anyone here. The people in front of you are not responsible for your problems, so treating them bad because you are going through things isn't excusable and it doesn't have to be tolerated. But it is what is going with them. It is the motif to why they are acting like this. So, maybe a trip to the psychologist wouldn't be a bad idea. And it will help them a lot. They can resolve issues and end up being a happier person, having a better quality of life. 

But what I wanted to say, is that no matter how perfect someone's life might seem, how easy might appear on the outside, how everything seem to fall into place so effortlessly for some, that's not the true case. People have problems. People struggle. People cry in silence, away from the eyes of others. Everybody is going through something. You are not the only one who thinks life is hard on them. It's the same with others as well. Just no one talks about it. 

Stay safe everyone, and remember it's not just you. It's everyone 😘

 

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Oh ... Christmas Tree ... Fake

 

Why? Cause that's how I like it.

Think of this: there are over 7 billions people in the world. Now, I'm not saying half of them, cause I'm considering families, even if there are more single people than there are families, but let's go with that for the sake of argument, and I'm considering the ones who aren't celebrating Christmas, so I'm just counting 2 billion people. If 2 billion people would chop a tree every single year to put into their homes for Christmas ... every year ... can you imagine how many trees that mean? That's a whole big forest. 

Do you know how much time a decent Christmas tree needs to end up looking like that? More than 2 decades (for who doesn't know what that means, it's more than 20 years). More than 20 years, to take it down in minutes and have it displayed in your house for a few days. Then it will dry up, and you will toss it away, and it will be chopped in little pieces, or, in some countries, just left on the side of the streets for weeks, or thrown at the garbage communal whole. 

Just stop a second and think of all the animals that are left without a home. You're taking a part of their home, to get inside yours, just to put stuff on it and throw it away at the end. 

Am I making sense here? Do you follow me?

The way I see it? It's like going inside someone's house and cutting off a pillar and taking it with you to put it in your house, then toss it away. Am I the only one who understands this? People are complaining that animals are coming too close to their houses in some countries. Where should they go? Those trees were giving them a source of food, and now they lost it. And they are coming to the limit that they once knew it was still their homes. 

I think I only had a real Christmas tree, inside my house, maybe two or three times in my life, when I was a child. Cause I had no idea back then what a Christmas tree meant for the forest and for the Planet. I had some vacations spent in the country, and my grandparents had a Christmas tree in the backyard, but we never chopped it. We used to put ornaments on it and let it in the place where he grew. After Christmas we would take them down, and the tree would still be there for next year. And there were years when we would just put ornaments on a usual tree, but not buy a real one to put inside our house. 

Since I grew up, I bought a fake Christmas tree that I have for over 12 years now, the same one. And it's beautiful, and big, and with a lot of branches, and it looks way better than the real one. And when Christmas is over I just put it back in the box and have it for next year. And I'm not polluting the air by throwing it away, cause I know it is plastic. Cause I don't need a new one every year, you just need different type of ornaments if you want to make it look different.

So, yes. Christmas can be celebrated differently. Christmas isn't in the tree, but in the feelings you have, the people you celebrate it with, and the traditions you have. 

Let's be a bit more conscious of the things we have now. Technology surpasses reality on a lot of things, and it helps protect the Planet and the environment. So let's take advantage of that, and try to create a better place for us. Not necessarily for the next generations, but for us, right now, right this minute. 

Stay safe dear friends, and have a beautiful Merry Christmas ... with a fake Tree :)

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