What Comes After, Hurts Way More

Don't jump the gun until you read the whole story.

What is exactly that people are reacting to? The idea of them being cheated?! Maybe.

- Someone is playing you and gets money from you - You find out, you feel betrayed.

- You find out your loved one is also "playing" with other, or others - You find out, you feel betrayed.

- A friend is hiding something from you - You find out, you feel betrayed.

And the examples can go on. But what is the common factor in all of these hypotheses? The fact that "you are finding out" about it.

So, is it true that what you don't know, can't hurt you? What if you wouldn't know that your significant other is cheating? Would you still resent them? Would you still be mad? Still feel betrayed? Or would you go on thinking that your life is good?

If your lover would act as if nothing is changed, would you ever know that something was wrong? If he would continue to bring you flowers on your birthday, take you out, laugh with you, hold you, kiss you, would you know he is cheating?

If she would still take care of the house, make you your favorite things, she would always be available for you, she would continue making you feel like you are the best in her life, would you know she is cheating?

Would you see them as a monster then?

So what is it really hurting us? The fact that we are being cheated, or the fact that we are no longer appreciated, and loved, and respected, and we are no longer placed in the center of the Universe of the person we would do anything for? You lose trust. And trust is one of the most important things in a relationship of any kind. If you don't have trust, you can't confide in someone with anything: money, projects, clients, responsibilities, love, feelings, secrets.

Do you know what is one of the first thoughts in the mind of someone who found out they have been cheated by their lover? That they have wasted so much time. Time hurts, because time moves. You could have been with someone who really loved you ... but, they loved you too, maybe they still do. They gave you their best years too, because they thought you are worthy. Maybe they still think that. But something happened at some point.

Not everything is black and white. Sometimes the end is just a new beginning.


P.S.: Nobody was cheated in the making of this :)


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