I keep hearing, and reading, from women who think, and say, that the well-being and happiness of the man in their life depends only on the woman. They say that if the relationship isn't working it is because the woman isn't trying hard enough, or doing what she is supposed to do.
What is a woman supposed to do to keep her man??
Sweet, wonderful ladies - and men who think the same - your purpose in the relationship is NOT to do everything you can to make your man stay. Please, read that again !
Your man should stay because he wants to be there, he wants a life with you, he loves you and respects you, and he wants to go through what life throws at the two of you, one next to another. And the same goes for men who believe it is their job to keep their women next to them.
Love is not a prison. You are not the guard. You are not his mother, nor the housekeeper, the cook, or the children bearer. You are not the joker, the entertainer or the mood keeper. You are the wife, just as he is the husband. You are both halves of the relation, having the same responsibilities and the same benefits.
You are supposed to love one another, support one another, and go through life together, and do all that while you still keep yourself as an individual. You don't have to erase everything you were before, just to avoid discussions or contradictions.
Don't be afraid to still be you and have an argument once in a while. That's sane. Can you imagine how it would be like to always censor yourself just to avoid a disagreement? Why on Earth would you do that? He fell in love with You. Now you want to give him someone new? I'm not saying you have to fight for every stupid thought or idea, but if you had some convictions before and he couldn't come with an argument to make you see things differently, then, by all means, keep your convictions and stand by them calmly and politely.
If he expects You to keep the relationship together, than he has no idea what a relationship is. He probably just needs a mother to pick up where he's own left off.
AGAIN - this is available both ways. If the woman in your life expects you to win her over day after day, she has no idea what a relationship is.
Men are hunters. Yes. I know that. They have that instinct. They need to "hunt" you. But even hunters take breaks. They don't just stay on their toes day and night.
You are BOTH part of the relationship, so you have to BOTH work for the relationship.
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