Nobody Owes You Anything!

 

 

Nobody owes you anything! And the fastest you learn that, the fastest you stop having false expectations from people and feeling hurt when they don't deliver.

I keep seeing posts saying that people don't have your soul, they are not as good as you, they don't reciprocate your goodness, and that is not 100% true. People are people, just as you are. Do you help every single person that is or comes into your life? You don't!

Maybe some even helped you at some point, but they might ask something from you that you can't deliver, or you are really in a situation where you can't help them with what they need. Does that make you a bad person? It does in their eyes, because from their point of view, they helped you, and now you're turning your back to them. So you are the ungrateful, bad person.

But you're not like that. You just can't help them now, or with that specific problem. This doesn't make you a bad person.

Plus that you can help someone every day of their life, and if one time you just can't do it, they will remember and remind you about that one time, forgetting all about the 3276 times you did help them. This is how people are. And it's not because people are bad, but because people are wired to see the negative, so we can stay alive.

The best explanation for why people see the negative is with the cave, back in history when people were living in caves and no one was waking up calm and relaxed thinking they'll go and watch the sunshine, but rather they would wake up thinking about the dangers that could be lurking: snakes, pray animals, rocks falling down, not finding food, and so on. 

So, when you help someone, but they can't help you back,maybe take a moment to show them some understanding as well, because maybe they genuinely can't help you with that specific thing, but they might help you with something else in the future.

If that person never helps you with anything, then yes, maybe you should start thinking that they are just a taker and never a giver, and you should look for other friends. But if they do help you when they can and with what is possible for them, maybe we can stop expecting them to be this perfect support 100% of the time. Just like you, people have their own lives too. They have problems, bad days, dreams they are chasing, lives they are trying to live. Let's be a bit more understanding.

Again, if that person is never available, them maybe consider going towards other real friends, but if they help when they can and with what they can, then let's just give people a break from this idea that they have to be perfect and supporting us 100% of the time.

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