The Only Way To Change

 

 

There is only one way that someone changes their behavior and traits, and that is if they want it so bad. No change done for someone else will ever last. When you get tired of living the same life, being unhappy, feeling miserable and sad all the time, and you feel that staying in that same situation will kill you, that is when you can change and will change.

I know people who gave up smoking, substance abuse, drinking, and a lot of other addictions, for someone else, for their spouse, lover, child, parents, and so on. The success rate is really low. That is because when you are doing it for someone else, it is not your choice. You're not doing that because you had enough of it, you are doing it because you feel pressured into it: if I don't do it, they will leave me, not love me, they will be disappointed, and so on. So, this only means that on top of the reason of why you're having that addiction, you're adding the stress of having to give it up in order to be loved, accepted, wanted. And that is why chances are that it can end up in fail. 

But when you can't take anymore how your life is, when you feel like waking up to the same disappointments, and lack of discipline, and the same chain of events every single day leave you breathless, that is when you change, and it lasts. Because the fear of  staying stuck in the same unhappiness every single moment of every single day becomes grater than the fear of moving and trying something new. 

We don't want to change. People's brain is designed to seek comfort. That is why you procrastinate as well, because you anticipate that it will take you out of your comfort zone, so your brain and body is fighting you on acting. But when the fear of living the same unbearable life every day is grater than the fear of moving, that is when you don't care anymore. Because in both situations, your brain fears death. Leaving your comfort zone is death in a way, it is the death of comfort. But when staying in the same situation means death, then there's nothing to lose by taking action. On the contrary, there is actually a chance you will feel alive again.

 

 

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